You Don't Have to Feel Like It
The Christian Life Coach Podcast Episode 82
What if not feeling like doing something isn't actually a problem?
We make plans and commitments when we're excited and motivated. Then an ordinary Tuesday comes along, and suddenly we don't feel like doing the things we've already decided matter.
I know this because I do it, too!
In this episode, I'm talking about how we can stop waiting for motivation and start practicing consistency. Not by being hard on ourselves, but by deciding ahead of time what we're willing to do and following through from a place of love.
We'll talk about minimum baselines, evaluating our thoughts, preparing for obstacles, and learning to do the small things even when they aren't exciting.
I'm also sharing a commitment I'm making in my own life. It's small enough that I can practice it while my coffee is brewing.
I'd love to hear from you:
What's one minimum baseline you're committing to practice this week? And when are you going to do it?
Tell me in the comments!
Free resource: My habit tracker is available when you subscribe to my Substack.
https://substack.com/@coachshannap
Scriptures mentioned: Galatians 6:9, James 1:22, Colossians 3:23.
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[Shanna Pyzer | shannapyzer.com] 08:13:33
I do a lot of things.
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that I don't feel like doing.
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And I also don't do a lot of things that I don't feel like doing.
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And that is what I'm talking about today.
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Welcome to the Christian Life Coach Podcast. I am Shanna, your Christian Life Coach.
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I literally… this is embarrassing, but I'm gonna say it anyway, because I am… I pride myself on being authentic and transparent.
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I didn't have a podcast come out last week. Is that true?
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Yes, that is true.
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Because…
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I can't remember the reason, but I didn't. And having a podcast come out each week is one of the minimum baselines that I want to practice consistently.
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And if I'm honest.
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Well…
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That's not true, because if I was honest about it, then I would be doing it right.
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Hey, welcome to my head. You're welcome.
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Anyway, I didn't do a podcast last week and I have just, I've had so many things swirling around in my head, ideas and I've had.
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I have had a pretty scheduled calendar over the past couple weeks with clients and calls that I wanted to be on.
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I constrained a lot, let me tell you. I could be on so many Zoom calls, it's crazy. Um…
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But I did not do a podcast last week, and this week I'm like, I am doing a podcast. If I have to do it live on YouTube on Wednesday morning, I'm doing a podcast, except I don't have a spot on Wednesday morning to actually do that. So, embarrassingly.
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And here I am admitting to you that I literally opened up ChatGPT this morning and I said.
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Something to the effect of I am at a loss.
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For… like, I just… I'm not feeling inspired about any podcast topics.
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what are some ideas that you have from things that I have talked about, you know, because my ChatGPT, I have invested a lot of time and energy into.
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Building up the content bank in ChatGPT so that it is useful for me. And it's very first recommendation, and I'm actually going to pull it up here.
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And it had my top eight episode ideas. Number one, you don't have to feel like it.
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And it said, it gave me kind of a little synopsis and some scripture references. And it said, this could be particularly relevant because you're experiencing a version of it right now.
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And that is my ChatGPT calling me out.
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So…
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Here's my question.
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Why do we think that we need to feel like it?
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And how often do you find yourself waiting until you feel like doing something that you've already decided that you want to do?
[Shanna Pyzer | shannapyzer.com] 08:17:16
Yeah, me too. We have things. I have things.
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that I want to accomplish, habits that we want to establish, routines, rhythms. And we have particular ways that we want to show up in our lives, to our lives, in our relationships, in our jobs, or whatever.
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We have ways that we want to show up.
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And we make decisions about those things when we're feeling motivated, excited, hopeful.
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And then…
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The time comes to do the thing.
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And we don't feel like doing it.
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And we start negotiating, we… maybe I'll do it tomorrow, I'll do it later. I have a client that coined the phrase, later equals never. So whenever… whenever later would pop up in her brain, she would remind herself later.
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Equals never do it now.
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Um, maybe when things settle down, when I have more energy, when I have a better idea.
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But when we're doing that, we are allowing how we feel in a particular moment decide whether we are going to do something that we've already decided is important.
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So.
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What's the solution?
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What if not feeling like it is not actually a problem?
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It doesn't necessarily mean that anything's gone wrong. It doesn't automatically mean that you've made the wrong decision that you, oh, maybe I'm not supposed to do that because I don't feel like it and I need a different plan.
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What if none of that is true?
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our feelings.
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And.
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Don't feel like it.
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The opposite of desire.
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They're real, but they don't get to make our decisions. The first time I heard anybody say this was Elizabeth Benton. And she came in to speak to a book club that I was in.
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And…
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Online, of course. And she said, and this was years ago when not too long after her book Chasing Cupcakes came out, which I highly recommend. I'll put the link in the show notes.
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She said.
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Our feelings can ride along with us, but they don't get to drive the car.
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So we have a lot of different emotions and we have varying degrees of any one emotion.
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And that's just part of being human.
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And we don't have to pretend.
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I don't have to pretend that I want to do something that I don't want to do. We don't have to pretend that we're not tired or frustrated or discouraged or uncomfortable.
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But.
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We also do not let We do not have to let tired, frustrated, discouraged, or comfortable.
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decide what we're doing. We are not letting those emotions drive our actions.
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We don't have to make our decisions based on the emotion I'm feeling right now. We can acknowledge that you feel that way. You can acknowledge that you're frustrated, that you're…
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feeling overwhelmed or tired or uncomfortable.
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And then you get to decide what you actually want to do.
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And going a little one step further, you can learn to recognize the thoughts that are creating the resistance.
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And evaluate whether those thoughts are true and helpful.
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Several past episodes, we talk about that, right?
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True and helpful.
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So…
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I don't feel like doing this.
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That is literally a thought.
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That I'm telling myself.
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I'm probably, when that comes up automatically, I'm going to believe that thought. Yeah, I just don't feel like it.
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But…
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Really?
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What if we say.
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What if we turn that thought around? I don't feel like doing this.
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Two.
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I don't feel like doing this right now.
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Okay, that's true. And what else is true?
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Like.
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Does telling myself, I don't feel like doing this right now, does that spur me to action?
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Or does that lead me to or keep me on my big comfy couch?
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So you can ask yourself, is it true that I don't feel like doing it today or I don't feel like doing it right now? Yeah.
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I actually don't want to, and also, I can do it anyway, right?
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So just looking at what am I thinking?
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And is it true? And is it helpful? Is that the thought?
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That I want generating the emotion.
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that I take action from.
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Because…
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I don't feel like doing this today or right now. I don't want to do this right now.
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Like, what does that lead to?
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Apathy.
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Maybe discouragement.
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So probably most mostly apathy, I think.
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What is the emotion that I want driving?
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that action that I like, maybe I'm not feeling inspired to do it, but can I just be willing?
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I really don't feel like doing this right now. And also.
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My minimum baseline is to have a podcast, so here I am. Literally in the moment.
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Okay.
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So I hope this is helpful for you because it's cracking me up on the inside and a little bit on the outside too.
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Here is what I use for myself.
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And for my clients.
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When when I'm helping with anything.
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Any goal that we're trying to achieve or change that we're trying to create in our life.
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We want to decide ahead of time, like, decide, figure out, clarify, what is that thing that I want?
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And decide ahead of time.
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What you're willing to do consistently to move you closer to that thing, or that way of experiencing your life, or showing up in your life.
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We want to, and this is my whole framework. Start where you're at.
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Do what you're commit to what commit to doing what you're willing to do consistently.
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And do it from a place of love.
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So
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We want to decide what is it that I want to do consistently? What are my minimum baselines?
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And a lot of times when we're thinking this through, we're like, when we're doing this work, when we're deciding and figuring it all out, we're kind of like.
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inspired and excited, and it might feel new. We might be getting dopamine hits while we're doing this.
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And so we are thinking about how I feel right now.
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And then we're surprised on…
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an ordinary Tuesday when I don't feel like doing the thing.
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So when you're deciding ahead of time, these are the things that I'm committing to doing consistently. You don't want to start.
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With best case scenario.
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You want to start thinking, okay, on an ordinary Tuesday. When I'm going to tell myself I don't feel like doing it.
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What can I be willing to do? What can I realistically commit to?
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And and practice doing it.
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Even when it's only from a place of willing.
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Because remember…
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I've said it so many times. Small actions taken repeatedly over time create amazing results. So we don't… it's not big, huge actions that we have to take.
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We just want to work towards being consistent and doing the little things.
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Um, I have so, like, I've…
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I have a lot of things that I could say. So minimum baselines, this is a concept that I grabbed onto from another coach years ago, and I just love the idea of using.
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minimum baselines. So, it's the smallest version of an action that you're willing to commit to doing consistently. That is a minimum baseline, by definition.
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For example, if you have a goal to be someone who.
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Moves her body every day.
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Then that might mean my minimum baseline is moving my body for 15 minutes intentionally each day.
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Now, you're going to think that's not enough. That's not going to make a difference. I need to do at least 30 or two hours or whatever. But remember that small actions taken over time create amazing results.
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So a minimum baseline, like I said, 15 minutes of movement, whatever that looks like. It could be a walk. It could be on the treadmill. It could be a dance party in your living room. It could be doing squats and wall pushups throughout the day.
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So 15 minutes of intentional movement every day. That could be a minimum baseline.
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Spending time with God might mean.
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Opening your Bible and reading one verse.
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And then maybe, and maybe praying.
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Reading one verse and pray.
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I can commit to that every single day, even on my worst day, even when I'm thinking everything's chaos and going wrong.
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I can get my Bible out and read one verse and I can pray intentionally.
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Taking care of your home could be.
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I do one small daily reset. Before I go to bed, I make sure the kitchen's clean.
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That is one that I have.
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That I keep saying that I want to do, but I have not committed to it.
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So working towards a goal, working towards rhythms that you create, it might just be like, what is one thing?
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That I can do.
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towards this bigger thing? What is one thing that I can commit to doing the smallest.
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Version of it that I can commit to doing every single day.
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And then…
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Let that be enough.
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You're committing.
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to…
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You're choosing to commit an honor.
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what it is that you actually want. And some days, you're gonna go…
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You're going to go all in and maybe you're going to do a 30 minute walk and a 15 or 20 minute strength training workout. And that's great. That's amazing.
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But even on the days when you only do the 15 minutes of micro exercises throughout the day.
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That is amazing, too, because you're honoring your word that you made to yourself.
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You don't have to go overboard to consider your day is success as long as you're committing to and following through and being consistent in those minimum baselines.
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It's a win.
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And it's not about lowering your standards.
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You're creating a structure that makes it easier for you to create consistency.
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You're not giving up. You're setting yourself up for success.
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And then, another thing that Elizabeth Benton talks about that I love is…
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Consistency comes before intensity.
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So, once you, um, really, like, lock in those minimum baselines, like, if it's 15 minutes of movement a day, or taking it to a business.
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Um, idea.
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If it's…
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writing content for 10 minutes a day. I'm gonna sit down, and I'm gonna work on writing content for 10 minutes a day. That's a minimum baseline.
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Then when you get really consistent at that and like, okay, that's on lock. I have been so consistent at writing for at least 10 minutes every day, even on the days that I don't feel like it, even on the days.
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where I really could make an excuse and not do it. I'm consistent. And at that point, you can decide, okay.
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I'm going to raise.
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this minimum baseline a little bit. I'm going to go from writing for 10 minutes a day to writing for 20 minutes a day.
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I'm going to go from 15 minutes of intentional movement every day to.
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20 minutes of intentional movement every day. So consistency.
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comes before intensity. Because if we're gonna… if we think we're gonna go all in, I'm gonna write for an hour a day, I'm gonna work out for an hour a day, I'm gonna clean the house every single day.
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Um, I don't… I mean, maybe you would, but I probably wouldn't end up doing any of it.
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Because I'm like, oh, it's too much.
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It's too much.
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So.
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Minimum baselines is just setting yourself up for success and you can always.
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raise the bar on your minimum baseline. You can create a new minimum baseline that's a little bit higher.
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And…
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And doing it anyway.
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I love Mel Robbins has the hashtag. Hashtag do it anyway.
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I think she had.
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And does she have a book called that or something? I don't know, but she.
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Back in the day, she talked about that a lot.
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And it's not the same as being hard on yourself. It's not beating yourself up.
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It's not, ugh.
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I have to do it.
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It's…
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I'm willing to do this because I know that it matters.
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And you're doing it again from a place of love.
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I am looking at, okay, I don't feel like doing this right now.
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But I know.
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That in order to achieve what I actually really do want to achieve.
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It requires me to do this thing.
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And so I'm willing to do it.
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Even though I don't feel like it.
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And I mean, honestly.
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If you're a mom or you ever babysat.
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And the baby or the toddler has a poopy diaper or is crying because they're hungry.
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You don't just say, I don't feel like it, right?
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You're like, ugh.
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I do not want to change that diaper. It stinks so bad. And I'm willing to do it because I want to be a good mom.
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Because I want to take good care of that baby.
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So it's not like, oh, I have to do this. It's so terrible. You know, it's not being, it's, it's coming from a place of love.
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And a place of generosity.
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And stewardship.
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Just like sometimes being loving and kind.
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Means doing the hard thing.
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Sometimes loving ourselves and being kind to ourselves.
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Requires getting up and doing the thing that we don't want to do.
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So let's see.
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I… the last episode that I did was…
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Um, about…
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Make it boring.
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And.
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And that's… it's kind of like… there's a couple different ways to think about that. It could be make it boring, so that I don't have all the drama about it. Like, no, it's just what I do. And that's kind of my thing, like…
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I podcast every week. It's just what I do.
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Except there have been a few weeks recently that I have missed. So I'm working on being a person who podcasts every week.
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Right?
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And in the beginning.
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we're excited about it. In the beginning, when you find a weight loss program that you are like, I can do this, and you start seeing progress, and you're excited, you get compliments, you're noticing your clothes fitting differently.
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In business, you might have all of these ideas and you're so excited to get the website set up and buy all the expensive programs and get your camera and the lighting and all of the things.
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And then…
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Until that novelty wears off.
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And…
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We don't feel like it pops in your head.
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So then what happens?
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Are you going to keep doing the things that you decided are important?
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Even if nobody's noticing your efforts.
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Can you continue practicing those habits even when the results aren't immediately visible?
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Can we allow the ordinary, repetitive actions to just become part of who we are? This is just what I do.
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In that episode that I did, I said, make it boring. And when it's boring, keep going.
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Not everything worthwhile is exciting.
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And we don't even have to manufacture or rely on excitement or motivation to keep doing the things that matter.
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We can just be willing.
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to do the thing that we don't feel like doing.
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I love…
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Galatians 6:9.
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Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap.
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If
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We do not give up.
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Be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.
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Whatever you do, work heartily.
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As for the Lord and not for men, not for likes, not for shares, not for comments. Right?
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And I want to point out, too, like, I want to distinguish, like, not feeling like it because…
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I would rather sit and watch Netflix or read my book.
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And being physically tired.
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Totally different things. So, like, if you're feeling drained and exhausted, look at that. Like.
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Anytime you're experiencing, um…
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I mean, really like any strong emotion or.
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Like hunger, like being hungry. Am I actually hungry or do I just want to eat? If I'm actually hungry.
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If I'm not fasting.
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And it's time to eat. I want to feed my body. So take care of the physical things that you can take care of.
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Tired.
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may need to be addressed. How can I get more rest?
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So, and you can be emotionally tired by the way that you're thinking, the things that you're telling yourself on repeat, and there's physical tired, which you're, like, your body and your brain, they need sleep.
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Okay? They just need sleep.
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So what are you willing to do, whether you feel like it or not?
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What is one thing?
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What is something that you keep saying that you want to do, but you're waiting to be motivated?
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It could be in building a business, your health, relationships, spiritual disciplines, finances, your house. It could be resetting your kitchen in the evening before you go to bed.
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And then ask yourself, what do I actually want in this area of my life?
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What is it that I want?
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I want to be a person that exercises every day or moves my body every day. Why does this matter to me?
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What action would support that desire? What can I do to set myself up for success? What is the smallest version of that action? I'm willing, I'm willing.
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To commit to doing consistently.
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And then I love, I always want to do this, prepare for the obstacles. Identify and prepare for the obstacles. What are the thoughts that tend to come up when I don't feel like doing it?
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And expect those thoughts to come up.
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Oh, there it is. I knew I… I knew I wasn't gonna… I knew I was going to tell myself I didn't feel like doing this.
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And then what can you remind yourself of when those thoughts show up, when you identify those thoughts?
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And choose something so small.
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It can be, here's, okay, here's the one Here's what I am going to do.
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I am committing to it right now.
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And I have been consistent about it in the past, and I have not recently.
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So, and I got a new coffee pot. Oh my word, total sidebar.
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I have been using a Keurig for a long time, and I've kind of gone back and forth between using my Keurig and doing French press, and I just decided that I wanted an actual coffee pot where I could make a full pot.
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Or I could make individual cups. And can I just tell you how happy I am about that decision that I made?
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I love my new coffee pot. I love, this was actually on my gratitude list yesterday.
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I love that I can have, like, a little bit of coffee in my cup left, and I can go get the carafe of hot coffee and freshen my coffee cup without having to…
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nuke it until I finish it, and then make another cup in the Keurig.
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I love that. It's so weird. It was on my gratitude list.
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Excuse me while I take a sip.
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I'll put the link.
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I'll give you my Amazon link for the coffee pot that I got. I actually really love it.
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Um, so…
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Where was I? Okay, my commitment.
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Here's my commitment.
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When my coffee is brewing in the morning.
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I drink my cup of water, which I have been pretty good about that, and I do 10 squats.
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That's it. Ten squats. Drink my water while my coffee is brewing.
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That's a minimum baseline. I drink water and squat while my coffee is brewing.
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That's it.
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So what is your version?
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of that, something small enough to practice consistently for the next week, even when you don't feel motivated to do it. And it's not to prove anything, it's not… you're not doing this to yourself.
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You are doing this for yourself.
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You are doing this because this is the version of you that you want to be.
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You want to become the woman who follows through. We so like so often and I have been there.
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So many times, like, why can't I just do what I say I'm going to do?
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And using these minimum baselines helps you to grow trust in yourself because you're doing the thing that you said you were going to do. And it's tiny.
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But you're doing it even when you don't feel like doing it, and that is developing trust in yourself.
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That is becoming a woman who takes care of herself, who honors her word to herself, who follows through.
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Who does the hard thing? Who does the boring thing? Who doesn't need to see immediate results to keep going?
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I don't have to feel like doing it.
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And I can acknowledge that I don't feel like doing it.
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And then I remind myself why I decided that it's important, important, and I choose to do it anyway. I'm willing to do it anyway because it is something that matters with me, matters to me.
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So what is one thing that you have already decided?
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matters to you that you could begin following through on, whether you feel like it or not? What is that one thing that you're committing to?
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So I would love.
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to hear from you.
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I would love to hear what is that one minimum baseline that you're committing to doing.
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And when are you going to do it? Anchor it to something else, like I did with my coffee. While my coffee is brewing, I make coffee every morning.
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If I'm not having coffee in the morning, I am deathly ill.
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So coffee, that's a…
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That's a sure thing.
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So while I make my coffee, I'm going to drink my water and I'm going to do 10 squats. So what is your small thing that you're going to commit to doing?
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And when are you doing it?
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Wherever you're watching or listening.
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I would love to hear from you.
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I'll put my email address in the chat, or in the show notes, so you can email me if you can't comment.
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I would love to hear from you.
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And…
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in the podcast resources. And if you subscribe to my substack.
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I have a free habit tracker download, and it is the… it's a basic habit tracker, but I love my habit tracker, and that helps me to build consistency in these minimum baselines. So…
[Shanna Pyzer | shannapyzer.com] 08:46:52
Go into the show notes to click the link to get the habit tracker or subscribe to my Substack and you'll get an email with the habit tracker linked.
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Thank you so much for being here.
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Remember that life coaching is life-changing, one renewed thought at a time.
